(continued from pt. I) The second agreement within The Four Agreements is, “Don’t take anything personally.” In this agreement, we learn that taking things personally can lead to negative feelings about ourselves. The reason for this is that we haven’t … Read More
The Four Agreements: Simple Axioms To Live By In Recovery Pt. I
Don Miguel Ruiz released his worldwide best-seller, “The Four Agreements” in 1997, and since then the prescriptions for life that he outlined in this book have been adopted by millions. The widespread acceptance of the tenets laid out in The … Read More
Responsibility To Ourselves Is Responsibility To Others
Recovery is a self-focused program. Though we felt like we were living our lives in selfishness by continuously feeding an addiction without consideration toward negative consequence on ourselves or others, our recovery has to be focused on ourselves. Men who … Read More
Are Men Insecure About Their Height?
Height is something that either bothers men or it doesn’t. Many men are accepting of their height and the height of their brothers. Some men have beliefs that a certain height range is superior to others and by that logic … Read More
Growing Up Is Hard To Do
“All children grow up,” reads the first line of Peter Pan, “Except one.” In a world where “Neverland” comes to exist for children, the idea of an eternal child is exciting. In the real world, where we need to grow … Read More
Experimenting With Inspiration
Faith and belief can be hard to come by as men who have lived with the struggle of addiction in their lives. Being men, and being men who have been addicted, aren’t even necessarily influential factors, though these facts play … Read More
The Moment Of Letting Go
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.” – Herman Hesse There’s an element of control to holding on and refusing to let go. Depending on what we’re holding on to, what it … Read More
How Do Perceptions of Masculinity and Mental Health Collide?
Learning that their self-perception is formed, in part, by the perceptions which have been placed upon them by society, takes time for men. Masculinity has been shaped and defined by cultures, religions, media, and more for hundreds if not thousands … Read More
The Benefits Of Love
In our previous blog post we talked about how the harmful ideals of toxic masculinity can negatively affect men’s mental health. The American Psychological Association outlined specific issues in masculine ideology which were especially hurtful to young men which included … Read More
What Happens When Our Fathers Die?
The relationship between son and father is multi-dimensional, deeply complicated, and inexpressibly important. Men who have strained relations, of any kind, with their father, often face great emotional distress and issue. The trauma of abandonment, neglect, or rejection from a … Read More