Look at a stranger somewhere near by you today and ask yourself this question: what do we have in common? Pick someone who, from the outside, couldn’t look anymore different from you. They aren’t the same gender, they don’t have the same skin color, and all of your other judgments paint a radically different story for them than you would have originally imagined.
Take a deep breath and cast all those stories aside. Look at the stranger again. What could you have in common? What do you have in common? There are a few basic communities to start with. First, you’re both human beings. Second, two individual people, a man and a woman, created each of you and brought you into this world. You were both born and one day you will both die. Along every moment in between, you will feel many of the same emotions, have many of the same thoughts, and share many of the same struggles, though they may appear different.
Every other detail is just that- some other detail.
However, those details play a tremendous role in how you learn from life, relate to others, grow personally, and influence the choices you make and the way you make those choices. Each of you are most likely to see life a different way and hold a different perspective because of the different events which have happened in your lives. Each of you are most likely to have different preferences, like different kinds of music, have different attachment styles, and more.
If the both of you were to enter a treatment program to recover from drug and alcohol addiction, you wouldn’t need the same kind of program between the two of you. What substances you used, how you used them, for how long, for what reasons, etc, would be completely different. Which therapy types have the greatest affect on you, which activities inspire you the most- every nuance of treatment would be different for each of you. Life looks different for everyone and thereby addiction looks different for everyone and treatment, as well as recovery looks different for everyone.
We need a personalized plan for recovery that helps us connect to our commonalities with others, but pays attention to the important details of what makes us uniquely us.
Tree House Recovery of Orange County, California is a premier men’s addiction treatment facility that uses eight different modalities to help our men become the best versions of themselves they can be. We teach our men that every day of their journey is something to celebrate, and that recovery isn’t a sprint– it’s a marathon. By showing our men how to celebrate each day’s victories, we show them that self love isn’t about what we have or haven’t done. It’s about getting a little closer to where we want to be. To get started with Tree House Recovery, call us today at (503) 850-2474